Autistic distress does not arise in a vacuum. It grows in an ecosystem containing multiple environments; homes, schools, clinics, policies, waiting lists, professional cultures. When one part of that ecosystem fails, the harm does not remain neatly contained. It ripples outward. It compounds. It reshapes lives.
This is where Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services (CAMHS) repeatedly and predictably causes harm to Autistic children and young people; not always through overt cruelty, but through systemic neglect, misframing, and an almost ritualised failure to understand what Autistic distress actually is.
CAMHS does not merely fail to support Autistic children. It actively destabilises the ecosystems they rely on.
The Category Error At The Heart Of CAMHS
At its core, CAMHS treats Autistic distress as mental illness. Anxiety, depression, OCD, school refusal, these are abstracted from context and framed as symptoms to be treated in isolation. The child becomes the problem. The brain becomes the battleground.
But Autistic distress is rarely an internal malfunction. It is most often an ecosystemic response to environments that are loud, fast, coercive, invalidating, or simply incompatible with Autistic ways of being.
This is the first harm; a fundamental category error.
By medicalising distress that is relational and environmental, CAMHS obscures the real sources of suffering, school systems that punish difference, social services that threaten families, benefit systems that grind people down, and health pathways that close doors instead of opening them.
When CAMHS asks, “What’s wrong with this child?” instead of “What is happening to this child?”, the answer is already compromised.
Waiting Lists As Structural Violence
Long waiting lists are often described as unfortunate side effects of underfunding. That language is far too gentle.
For Autistic children, waiting lists are not neutral delays. They are periods of unmanaged distress during which:
Sensory overload continues unchecked
School trauma escalates
Anxiety consolidates into shutdown or burnout
Families are blamed for “non-engagement”
Education placements collapse
By the time support arrives, if it arrives at all, the child is often no longer presenting with the original difficulty. They are presenting with secondary harm caused by being left unsupported in hostile environments.
CAMHS then documents this deterioration as evidence of “complexity,” rather than recognising its own role in creating it.
That is ecosystemic harm in slow motion.
Behaviourism In Clinical Clothing
Even when CAMHS engages, Autistic children are often offered interventions that prioritise compliance, emotional suppression, and behavioural normalisation. The goal becomes coping with harmful environments, not changing them.
Distress is reframed as something to be regulated away.
Meltdowns become “emotional dysregulation”. Shutdown becomes “avoidance”. Boundaries become “rigidity”.
The child learns, implicitly or explicitly, that their nervous system is wrong, their reactions are excessive, and their survival strategies are pathological.
This does not build resilience. It builds dissociation.
It teaches Autistic children to mistrust their bodies, ignore their limits, and perform wellness until collapse. The cost of this lesson often arrives years later, in the form of burnout, trauma, and disengagement from services altogether.
The Fracturing Of Family Ecosystems
CAMHS does not only intervene in children’s lives. It intervenes in families.
Parents are frequently positioned as obstacles rather than allies. Advocacy is reframed as anxiety. Expertise gained through lived experience is dismissed. Requests for reasonable adjustments are interpreted as resistance.
Families are told to hold boundaries that CAMHS itself refuses to enforce elsewhere, particularly in schools. Parents are asked to keep children safe in systems that remain unchanged and unchallenged. This creates an impossible bind.
When parents comply, they are complicit in harm. When they resist, they are labelled difficult. Either way, trust erodes. The family ecosystem destabilises under professional pressure rather than being supported to stabilise the child’s world.
School, Health, And The Disappearing Child
One of the most damaging features of CAMHS is its siloed operation.
Schools say, “This is mental health”. CAMHS says, “This is education”. Social care says, “Threshold not met”.
The child falls through the gaps, repeatedly assessed and endlessly deferred, until the system no longer sees them at all.
EHCP's become paperwork exercises rather than protective mechanisms. Health sections are vague or absent. Responsibility diffuses until no one is accountable for the harm being done in plain sight.
This is a failure of co-ordination and responsibility.
An Ecosystemic Reframe
If we start from an ecosystemic model of distress, the failures of CAMHS come into sharp focus. Autistic children do not need to be fixed. They need environments that do not continuously injure them.
That means:
Addressing sensory, relational, and demand-based stressors first
Working alongside families rather than above them
Holding schools accountable for harm
Recognising burnout, shutdown, and trauma as rational responses
Providing timely, practical, and contextual support
Until CAMHS shifts from an individual pathology model to an ecosystemic one, it will continue to do harm, even when staffed by well-intentioned professionals doing their best inside a broken system.
The Quiet Damage
Perhaps the most insidious harm CAMHS causes is the quiet kind, the harm that leaves no immediate incident report.
It is the Autistic child who learns that asking for help leads nowhere. The teenager who stops describing their inner world because it is always misunderstood. The adult who avoids services entirely because the lesson was learned early; support is conditional, compliance is required, and distress must be translated into acceptable language to be believed.
That damage does not stay in childhood. It echoes.
Ecosystems remember.
And until CAMHS learns to see Autistic children not as problems to be managed, but as people embedded in fragile systems that require care, change, and accountability, the harm will continue; quietly, predictably, and at scale.