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Things To Grieve Instead Of Your Autistic Child

A Non-Exhaustive List

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Apr 29, 2025
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Parents of Autistic children are routinely encouraged to grieve for their Autistic children. The idea of grieving for a living child feels explicitly offensive for me as an Autistic adult. Despite this I try to practice empathy as a fellow parent and remember that we are made to feel like having a child with anything more than basic support needs is a moral failing.

For this reason, I have compiled a list of things related to autism, that are not centred in the child, that could be grieved instead.

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